| How to Let
Go After Your Lesbian Breakup Breaking up is hard to do. There is no easy way to say goodbye to the one you believed you'd be with forever. If it is meant to be, though, then it is meant to be. It's sometimes best if you remain friends. Other times remaining friends isn't the wisest choice. Either way if at all possible, you should try to cut your losses, let them go and give them back to themselves, and move on with your life. It can be difficult to move on when you've been with someone for a long time. Your life is going to change. Even your daily schedule is most likely going to change, too, since you will be omitting activities you and your partner did together. Sleeping in bed alone is going to be hard to get used to if you are used to that warm extra body next to you. Life can seem hopeless, worthless, and impossible. This isn't true. You just have to reacquaint yourself with what life was like without your ex-girlfriend. Depending on how close you were, and how easy it is for you to deal with your emotions, this could take days - or it could take weeks or months. The point is to try not to drag out the relationship and what it 'could have been' any longer than what is a healthy grieving period. For a great source of healing from a breakup, read the eBook, How To Get Over A Break Up. If you truly loved your girlfriend - and you simply grew apart - you will feel a sense of loss and you will grieve, but it won't be as devastating as a breakup that just happened out of the blue without any forewarning. Hopefully, the following list will help to ease your pain. Redecorate to Feel Great When you cannot seem to get her out of your head because everything in your house reminds you of your time together, then you should consider redecorating. It can be difficult to let go if you're constantly reminded of the good and bad times you had together. An item you bought while on vacation, the dining room furniture you picked out together, or even the bed you once shared can remind you of exactly why you never wanted to live without her. Not everyone can afford to redecorate their entire house. However, there are some things you can do to ease the break up blues. New wallpaper is relatively inexpensive. If you are a budding artist - or a seasoned professional - you can give new life to each room by painting your walls. While you probably will not want to get a new bed, new bedding can give it an entirely different look. You can also remove any items from the home that are too painful to keep around. Just Let Go of the Clothes On the same level you will probably have some of her old clothes if they didn't take everything. It's common for someone who lived in a house for years to forget or lose something - and you may come across the item at a later date. If your ex doesn't want the things that have left behind you may just want to throw them away, or donate them (if clothes) to the Salvation Army - or any other organization who would benefit from such a donation. DO NOT hold on to the clothes. DO NOT wear them at night in remembrance of your ex. This is the fastest way to become obsessed with what you once had. In truth, if you dwell on your ex you may not only appear pathetic, but you may border on becoming a stalker. This may seem harsh, but it's best to be truthful - sugarcoating the truth during your breakup, or denying the breakup itself, is only going to hinder the healing process. Socialize to Stay Alive You may not want to be out around other people after your break up but you should try and get back out as soon as you can. Socializing doesn't mean you have to have another relationship immediately... it also doesn't mean you have any obligation to anyone other than yourself. Call up your friends and go out to the club. Go to the coffee house and enjoy a good intellectual conversation. Your options are limitless on where you want to go. And, for the first time in maybe a long time, you're free to go where you want, when you want, and without having to answer to anyone about what you do, or where you've been. Wherever you end up going you can have an easier time keeping your mind off of your ex-girlfriend if you're distracted. Sitting around and reflecting on the past - and playing should-of, could-of, would-of - only leads you down the path of self-destruction. You will start beating yourself up for something that probably wasn't even your fault, and, in the end that serves no purpose other than leading you down the road to more heartbreak. HOME PAGE |
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